Moving On from a Broken Relationship

Hasn't it been hard for you to decide whether to hold on or give up on someone who has been or always been a source of your happiness?

Some people takes only months, weeks or even days to get over someone. Some people takes more time trying to be done with it. And I'd like to help people like me.

We should know when to give up and when not to give up. We should know when we should wake up, when to stop, let go and move on. It's good holding on to a love so true but can you stand holding on when you're the only one left hanging?

When the one who used to want you now drives you away. When the one who used to pull you up just throw you away. That's the time that you must realize that he/she had totally and decisively forgotten about all, that's when you need to move on and heal yourself. We have to leave some dignity and respect to ourselves. When we have done all our best eating up our pride & egos to gain them back but they still choose to walk away.

Giving up is not a weakness or a failure, sometimes, it's just the right decision. Giving up your love for someone doesn't mean you don't care anymore. It only means you love him/her even more because you want him/her to be happy, happy with his/her decision. It is too selfish to push yourself to someone who do not love you anymore.

Sometimes, what's meaningful for us might not be meaningful to them. When things from the past remains to be only a part of his/her past and he/she choose not to include you in his/her present life anymore. You must learn to accept that. You may think it's unfair but that's a reality, only it's hard to deal with.

The good thing is, time heal wounds, though it would leave a scar and a memory. No matter how happy or sad it is, it will remain as a memory. Yes we can try to forget it but it will never be gone. What's important is we learned from it. Regardless of whosever mistake it is, still we can learn from it.

Most importantly, we have loved, we have tried, we took the risk, though we have lost, it is never our failure. For loving someone true & deep even if you're not appreciated, for loving someone who never loves you back, loving and expecting nothing in return is courage in itself.